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What you look for you will find. Wonderfully and unfortunately.
Unfortunately, because it can hurt you.
Wonderfully because it can heal you.
CAN is the key word.
We look for the familiar. Whether we know it. As the mind looks for patterns it can relate to and understand it may discard the new and possible. It may overlook the good and healthy because it is not registering as reachable or real. Feeling good and thinking positively can even feel awful.
We don’t trust it because we don’t know it.
If what is familiar to us is love, family, and relationships that involve abuse, manipulation, deceit, and pain, then we’ll come to expect that as a part of the deal. We’ll dismiss it. We may even believe it is our fault. We box ourselves in.
This week instead of looking for the familiar, for the next shoe to drop and expecting to feel bad, take the limits off. Notice when that dialogue comes up and refuse to entertain it. Start a new topic. “Don’t believe everything you think”. Think the best. Believe there is another side to the story. Take a break from reacting. Take some time to simply observe. Take in each moment as it comes without judging or engaging.
Be committed to making discoveries. To look for what you CAN do. To unbox yourself. This week, what will you look for?
Coaching
Managing your creative space means recognizing every day opportunities to make a difference. To do what you love and work with what you have towards reaching individual and professional goals.
If you are struggling where you are in your career, in your job, or if there is not a clear match between what you are currently doing and where you want to be, you've come to the right place.
Coaching can help give you an edge, get creative, and back on track!
Meeting Needs
Life Balance
Everyone has needs that evolve around survival, belonging, fun, freedom, and power.
The ability to control some aspect of our life, what we do, and navigate our environment is a critical part of meeting those needs. With competing demands, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed, unfocused, and off balance.
While mindfulness, healthy relationships, good diet and exercise are all excellent strategies to maintain balance, understanding why we do what we do and how our needs silently operate behind the scenes can empower us to make different choices.
It is a part of a formula for making life work for you.
Making It Work
Individual Counseling
Sometimes life can send us into a rut.
We can feel stuck, frustrated, and isolated as if we're just going through the motions of surviving the path we've carved out for ourselves or shuffling the cards we’ve been dealt.
Perhaps it is nothing new and you’ve been trying to fix it, trying to keep your head above water but you feel like you are going crazy and you’re ready to get off the hamster wheel.
Professional counseling can help. Don’t waste another minute trying to go it alone. Reach out today.